When you look at Serbia, Croatia and Bosnia and Herzegovina you can read that there is a lot of unemployment, nationalism, tensions and a bad political situation. All you hear is true and people my age and other generations see their life outside of it. A very big number of them is already living in Germany, Austria, USA and other countries. Staying here is seen as being crazy or unrealistically patriotic. But what keeps us from going somewhere else?
As I sad if you go to countries with a high standard of living you have much to gain. Live without worries, can build a family, have a nice car, home and so on. You don’t have to fear war on criminals. That is of course the life everybody wants. I value peace, freedom and security over anything and that sounds like paradise to me. I visited some towns like Berlin and Prague and I must say I liked it very much there, and I could live there without problems. That is the situation when you look at the economic facts, but what is the situation when you look at the social aspects like finding friends, building a family, integration in society and so on. There people from the Balkans have much to lose. We are known as nations which love to socialize, to party, family and friend gatherings and we tend to have strong bond with our neighbours. Thing become very hard then, as these countries represent new surroundings and a new culture. This is also a time of negative image of immigrants, especially those from parts of the world which are underdeveloped, so people from the West are being cold to them. Also most of the people who fled the war and now live in the West, see their neighbours as cold, “working too much” or being rude. And most of them miss drinking coffee at any part of the day with their friends and the Bosnian humor. These thing lead to the isolation of a person. Even many of my friends can’t imagine themselves living somewhere else.
And what about me ? Well I speak German and English very good, and I can see myself living there. But what hurts the most ? Well, I will leave Sarajevo the city who has a soul, and so I leave my best friends, the memories, the hurt, the happiness, football(soccer) playing with my friends, watching it with my friends, the parties and many things. Even tough this place sometimes reminds me of sadness and loneliness that I have been trough, it is the place I have learned the most and for that I am very thankful. But things that would break my heart is the thing that I would rarely see my niece ( sisters daughter) and that I would grow my family without my parents and my sister. But that is the things you have to risk and that is why leaving Bosnia means to lose too much.